The Algorithmic Lie
My sinuses are screaming. I just sneezed 14 times in a row, and the vibration is still rattling around my molars while I look at this glowing phone screen. The patient, a vibrant woman of 44, is holding it up with a desperate sort of reverence. On the screen is a 24-year-old influencer whose face has been curated by both a surgeon’s blade and a digital algorithm. The image is striking, I suppose-eyes pulled into a predatory, upward slant, lips so plush they look like they’ve never known the dry air of a winter morning. ‘Can you make me look like this?’ she asks. It’s a question that feels heavier than it should. The pressure in my head from the sneezing fit makes me want to close my eyes, but I look closer instead. I see the pixels. I see the impossibility of it. I see the 34 millimeters of skin laxity that the filter has simply erased, and I realize we are no longer talking about medicine; we are talking about mythology.
Transient Aesthetic
Structural Permanence
There is a fundamental disconnect between the transient nature of a ‘trend’ and the stubborn, biological reality of human tissue. Your skin doesn’t have a refresh button. It doesn’t care that ‘fox eyes’ are the aesthetic currency of 2024. It only knows the structural integrity of the lateral canthal tendon and the way the underlying bone begins to recede once you pass 44. To ignore this is to invite a kind of architectural disaster. When we chase a trend, we aren’t just changing an appearance; we are gambling with harmony. I’ve seen what happens when the gamble fails. I’ve seen women who have chased every ‘lip flip’ and ‘thread lift’ until their faces no longer look human, but rather like a collection of expensive parts that were never meant to be in the same room together. It’s a disjointedness that haunts me, honestly.
The Magic We Buy
Maybe I’m being too cynical. I once spent $444 on a high-end serum that promised to ‘recode my cellular memory,’ knowing full well that topical peptides can’t penetrate the basement membrane in any meaningful way. I bought it anyway because the bottle was heavy and gold, and I wanted to believe in the magic. We all want the magic.
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As a hospice volunteer coordinator-my other life, the one that keeps my feet on the dirt-I see faces in their final 14 days of existence. They talk about the people they loved.
And yet, here I am, back in the bright lights of the clinic, trying to explain why a ‘fox eye’ on a 44-year-old face is an anatomical lie.
The Price of the Pout
The Orbicularis Oris Gatekeeper
Take the ‘lip flip’ for example. Everyone wants the pout. They see it on TikTok and think it’s a simple flick of the wrist. But the orbicularis oris is a complex muscle, a circular gatekeeper of your most vital expressions.
Warning: Lost ‘P’ and ‘B’ Sounds
If you freeze the wrong 4 millimeters of that muscle, you don’t just get a pout; you lose the nuance of a smile. I’ve seen patients who can’t pronounce their ‘p’s’ or ‘b’s’ correctly because they wanted to look like a filtered version of themselves. It’s a high price to pay for a trend that will likely be replaced by ‘thin lips’ or ‘natural realism’ by the year 2034.
We are treating our faces like fast fashion, but unlike a polyester dress from a web-store, you can’t just donate your face to a thrift shop when the silhouette goes out of style.
The Long Game of Aging
The problem is that social media treats anatomy as if it were a layer in Photoshop. You can’t just drag the corner of an eye upward without affecting the tension of the lower eyelid. You can’t add volume to the cheeks without considering how that weight will migrate downward over the next 14 years. A responsible physician isn’t just a technician; they are a guardian of your future self. They have to be the person who says ‘no’ when your impulse says ‘yes.’
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Breaking the Chain
I remember a man I sat with last month. He was 84, his skin as thin as parchment, every wrinkle a map of a decade lived. He told me he used to hate his nose-it was too large, too hooked. He’d spent his 24th year saving up for a surgery he never got. By the end, he loved that nose because it was the same one his daughter had. It was a link in a chain.
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When we start ‘optimizing’ ourselves based on what an algorithm thinks is beautiful, we break those chains. We become unrecognizable to our own lineage.
It sounds dramatic, I know. I’m probably just irritable because of the sneezing. But there is a profound sadness in the erasure of individuality in favor of a homogenized, ‘Instagram-face’ standard. Let’s talk about the ‘fox eye’ again, because it’s the most egregious example of trend-driven surgery. To achieve that look permanently, you often have to disrupt the natural anchor points of the eye. Over time, as gravity does its work, those anchors can fail. You end up with ‘sunset eyes’-where the lower lid pulls down, exposing the white of the eye in a way that looks perpetually startled. It’s nearly impossible to fix perfectly. And for what? For a look that was popular for 24 months? We have to stop treating our bodies like hardware that needs constant firmware updates. Your body is an ecosystem. It requires balance, not just additions.